Remember yesterday? On your estimation, how many minutes or hours do you spent on Facebook? If you’re an average Joe, it’s likely that you’ve spent 1-2 hours of your life checking feeds, liking and commenting on your friends’ posts, and posting your thoughts or your pictures (or selfies).

Research proved that social media is not just connecting people, it also enforces constant evaluation of our life compare to others. As you logged out yesterday, your mind silently processed all the #newest, #happiest, #myLifeIsPerfect news from your friends and metered your life compare to them. Do you feel liked? Appreciated? Loved? Criticized? Ignored?

The tricky part is almost 90% of your friends’ posts are the #goods that are happening in their lives, share-worthy and nice for all others to see. But in my experience of scrolling a page full of selfies, I’ve never seen a photo of the selfie-taker where her not-too-good angle are shown, when she accidently capture a photo of the side of her face with blemishes, that unfortunate photo is violently and quickly deleted! Why show the bad when you have the freedom to showcase all the good and the finest? And that’s what we’re seeing in the majority of the posts – new gadgets, promotions, awards, picture-perfect (with the help of app photo filters) selfies. While you, the viewer is well aware of your problems –failed exam, shambling relationship, unpaid bills, denied opportunity.

It’s great to celebrate the good things that are happening in your friend’s life – if you’re really into it. Are you really happy for him or silently feeling the poison of envy? When he’s jumping on the roof because of the awards he got, are your whole self is really in tune to celebration or there’s a part of you that is miserable because you feel that you’re being left out? There’s a saying that you’ll only know your true friends when your life is in shambles and they’re still there, but I say that truer friends are the ones who are beside you when you’re celebrating and they don’t have those silent gaze of “I deserve better…”

There’s a growing dilemma that is happening in the world of social media. Besides connecting, social media like Facebook is about showing your life: your accomplishments, pictures, opinions. It is “showing media”, and the web app that was originally coded by Mark Zuckerberg in his Harvard dorm room became the preeminent meeting place to get updated about your friends. But social media rarely let you glimpse in the inside of your friends’ life, because html5+css3+less/sass+javascript+jquery+ajax+php+mysql, the computer languages where Facebook is made of - can never do that, it takes real human connection to feel the state of another soul.

Being a social media participant myself, I know and I’m thankful for the uplifting effects when someone liked my posts and commented positive things about them. But those likes and comments are just drops compare to the original and best sources of happiness. Thus, if we focus much of our time on social media searching for meaning and happiness, then we’ll logged out more aware of the things we don’t have than the things we do have. We logged in hoping that our soul-bucket would be filled by likes, but as we scroll and open our friends’ pages, what we’re seeing is all the good in their outer lives with those perfect smiles, and we think and feel that all of their soul-buckets are filled with #excitement and #happiness while our own only have drops.

That’s not true.

We become busier in polishing our outward self, accumulating lots of stuff and participating where all are cramming. Sometimes, we even wear an unauthentic version of ourselves to please the expectation of our social media friends, to assert that we figure out real life and we’re having a blast! A lie for like? Are we deluding ourselves just to be accepted? If we let pretenses run in our blood, then ruefulness will eventually ruin our life.

If you’re feeling a twinge of guilt or madly irritated to me now, I’m okay with it. This post is a reminder for anyone who cares to stop by and read. No condemning. No pointing fingers. Just a nudge to me and to you that things that are most important are not always meant to be liked and commented, but to be loved and cared for.

How can our soul be cherished and filled? Now, I know that my answer would make others uncomfortable, they would even think that I’m one of those religious people who are so adept at opening conversation then conspicuously leading it to salvation issue even its detour seems awkward and inappropriate. I know the prejudice, and if you think that some Christians have their own share of pretenses, I cannot and would not deny it - I’m certainly one of them. We have a lot of living-like-Jesus to do, and the marketing hype of evangelicals may be offending or irrelevant to you – but I dare you to take a hard look at what we’re really trying to say – that there’s a Father who cares.

Isn’t it great to know that there’s Someone who knows and cares about your life’s news feeds, in every seconds you breathe? One who can hear the real message behind your status updates? A Person who deeply cares for you even your life is not “share-worthy”? Please stop for a while and think about Him. Because he always think about you, from the very start of the ticking of the clock up to this moment, and even when the time gets broken and your life seems stolen – He would always deem you as care-worthy.

We need to hear the voice of our Father every day, because life’s greatest moments is in His presence. The problem is we’re constantly distracted - too many notifications, messages, and links are diverting our attention from essential to unessential. Once we logged in Facebook or Twitter, the infinite scrolling begins. Hours later, we feel exhausted and a little bit depressed for not having the perfect life that our friends have. While all the time, we’re cherished by a Person who thinks that we’re so worthy to love and even die for. We’re not meant to have it all and show our stuff to all, we just need to be filled in – with love, gratitude, hope and grace and then be a blessing to all. I hope that we all would one day embrace the very essence of sharing, not just clicking the share button and let others see what you want them to see, but really share what you have – time, attention, and love.

Let’s always log in to Him, no high-speed internet or fancy smartphone needed, just your presence and thirsty heart. All things are created by His word, so if we’re lost and feeling that life is suck out of us, we just need to hear the Voice where all life began. Listen. Feel. Live. Be reminded again that life is in fullest when we’re living in the manner we’re designed to live – centered in His love, enduring with His grace.

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